Avoid character assassination
By Josephine Oguntoyinbo
Character assassination is the deliberate, malicious, unjustified and sustained effort to damage the reputation or credibility of an individual.
It is the slandering of a person usually with the intention of destroying public confidence in that person, or a deliberate efforts to ruin the character of others.
This character is a pervasive and destructive phenomenon that is found everywhere, which includes families, political arena, places of worship, organizations, work places, and so on.
The mistake you should never make in life is to allow yourself to be recruited by someone to hate another person who has not wronged you.
You must avoid making hasty conclusions because of what others are saying about someone else.
Things you say about others, says a lot about you because one can tell a lot about a person by what they choose to see in others.
There are people who take maximum delight in ruining other’s reputation. These people have what is called ‘Destructive Tendencies’. They oil their own ego by pulling other people down, popularly called “Pull him down syndrome”.
False allegations are the most chronic form of mental abuse. When people cannot kill your dreams and purpose, they will try to assassinate your character.
There are some people that your spirit will always irritate their demons, and once they realize hating is not working, they start telling and spreading lies about you.
It is a known fact that people are assassinated once ,but character assassination’ kills daily. The habit is a form of emotional violence against others.
Someone once said, “A friend of my enemy is my enemy.” One of the things that hinder us from living a fulfilling and inclusive life is bringing past bias and sentiments into present relationships. Therefore, a friend of your enemy may not necessarily be your enemy; it all depends on intentions and contributions.
Social intelligence is the kind of intelligence that keeps you sane, even when others are trying to pollute your mind against someone else, until you have thoroughly confirmed the veracity of the claims before you.
Never inherit other people’s enemies It is a totally bad mindset.
Also, never use your parental influence to make your children hate others. You may often need to guard them with their choice of friends but never plant the seed of discord in the heart of your children against someone else.
In addition, Do not be used as weapon in other people’s battle, It is not every battle that you must involve yourself in. When people fight dirty, refuse to take sides. Observe deeply before concluding finally.
Likewise, do not hate people just because they don’t behave like you. It is a waste of time if the only people you like are those that are like you. The greatest proof of our education is in how we respond to people whose opinions are different from ours. People who think their opinions are superior to others are most prone to overestimating their relevant knowledge and ignoring chances to learn more.
To this end, stay away from people who talk bad about others daily. this kind of people carries a negative spirit, which is contagious. The real problem is not that they are unhappy about others, but they are unhappy with themselves.
Therefore, stop creating walls of contention, rather help build bridges of understanding among people.