Building a happy home
By Josephine Oguntoyinbo
W hen you see a happy couple, do not envy them or assume they are lucky to find each other. Being a good person or being religious does not make a happy home neither does riches and wealth.
Marrying the most beautiful woman or the most handsome man does not guarantee happiness in marriage either. Many christians or muslims even think marrying another good christian or muslim is a sure way to having a happy home, but many have been disappointed.
What then makes a happy home? A happy home is a fulfilment derived from mutual selfless commitment to the marital union. Having a happy home can only be achieved by deliberate efforts and determination of both parties. No matter how much a partner desires a happy home, it can only happen if the other partner wants and agrees to build a happy home.
To achieve a happy home therefore, both parties must first be determined. They must both offer themselves as a living sacrifice on the altar of their marriage. They must deny themselves and be willing to accept, love, and tolerate.
No self ego or self centeredness in a happy home. This journey must starts with contentment and diligence, then it continues in daily forgiveness and mutual tolerance.
No couple is happy when they continue to look at each other’s weaknesses or offences. They can only be happy if they choose to accept each other’s shortcomings and offenses and take their pains and hurts to God, instead of thinking about it . Happy couples do not win arguments, rather they communicate to achieve a better union.
Happy couples do not compare their marriage with others, they are happy and contented with what they have.
Happy homes are not meant for selfish and inconsiderate partners. Happiness is a choice but the price is not cheap. Only the humble and those who are tolerance can buy it.
The manual for a happy home is not designed by the society or social media. They are designed by the couple. The ideal home must not follow the acceptable trends in the society rather working and practicing what makes the parties happy.
You can initiate the journey to a happy home today no matter how far you have traveled in the path of bitterness and unforgiveness. It is not too late to adjust. A happy home is a reflection of happy and successful children. Give Peace a chance in your marriage.