Age gap in marriage is a subjective matter, and what may work for one couple may not work for another. However, it is generally accepted that couples should be of legal age and have the maturity to make a well-informed decision. In many cultures, it is also considered appropriate for couples to be close in age or within a certain age range.
That said, there are many couples who have successful marriages despite having significant age gaps. What’s most important is that both partners are compatible in terms of values, goals, and interests, and it is they are committed to making the relationship work.
Worth noting that age gaps can present unique challenges, such as differences in life experiences and stages of life, and potential issues with power dynamics. However, if both partners are aware of these challenges and are willing to work through them, they may be able to build a strong and fulfilling relationship.
Ultimately, whether it is a younger man versus an older woman or the other way round, marriage is a personal decision that should be based on the specific circumstances of each couple. it is important for couples to communicate openly and honestly about their expectations, concerns, and as well to seek guidance and support when needed.
Damilola Olatunji, a relationship expert, said “age is just a number” and the statement is often used to imply that age differences should not be a significant factor in a romantic relationship or marriage. However, the reality is that age can have an impact on relationships in various ways.
While it is true that age does not necessarily determine a person’s maturity or compatibility with another individual, age differences can lead to differences in life experience, perspectives, and goals. These differences can present challenges in a relationship, and it is important for couples to be aware of them and work through them together.
According to her; “Additionally, age can be a factor in the power dynamics of a relationship. A significant age difference can create an imbalance of power, with the older partner having more life experience, financial stability, and social standing. This power dynamic can make it difficult for the younger partner to assert their needs and desires in the relationship.
All of this is to say that age can be a factor in a marriage, and it’s important for couples to be aware of the potential challenges that may arise as a result. However, with open communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to work through any issue that may arise, age differences do not have to be a barrier to a successful and fulfilling marriage” she added
“Marbie Biodun, another relationship expert said “Yes, age can be just a number when it comes to marriage and relationships. While there may be some societal norms and expectations regarding age differences in relationships, ultimately, what matters most is the connection and compatibility between two individuals.
“Marriage is a partnership built on love, respect, and mutual understanding, and age differences should not necessarily be a barrier to those qualities. As long as both partners are consenting adults and are comfortable with the age difference, there is no reason why a man cannot be happily married to an older woman.
“Of course, as with any relationship, there may be challenges and adjustments to be made due to the age difference, such as differences in life experience, expectations, and physical ability. However, with open communication and a willingness to work through any issue that may arise, a relationship between a man and an older woman can be just as fulfilling and successful as any other”
Adegoke Adebiyi, a business developer said that there are a lot of other serious problem to deal with in marriage noting that age sometimes is not one of them. Although we can not entirely rule it out, it all depends on the individuals involved.
According to him “Everyone should love who they want, however it pleases them and not living your life for society, because society won’t help you when the need arises, you alone can help yourself.
“Can you always please society (humans)? I guess not.” He reacted
In the same vein, Ayomide Olupona, a businessman said “I’m dating an older woman. The difference in our age is just four years. She is everything a man can ever dream of.
“She’s very supportive doesn’t bother me and allow me do my thing. She doesn’t boss me or anything of sorts. She’s also very independent, but the only thing that stresses me out is our age difference and it’s quite obvious because i even look quite younger than my age and she’s quite matured both physically and mentally. I’m sure if any challenges should arise in the future, we would tackle it,” he said
On the contrary, Yomi Alade, a tech guru said that It is totally wrong for a man to marry a lady older than him.
According to him; “Women are always very particular about age. They don’t respect men that are younger than them. That explains the reason why there is always rivalry between a girl and her younger brothers.
Women age faster than men. If you marry a girl that is two years older than you, as time progresses it will appear as if she is 10 years older than you! There will even be a time when everyone will think she’s your mother!
It is completely wrong to marry a woman who is your age mate or who is older unless you are ready to bear the consequences. A man ideally should marry a lady that he other than with not less than five years” he said
Psychologist Ayodeji Ayanleye argues: “Age-gap relationships can work fine until the couple pass this 40s and start to become older; then the age difference really begins to show a lot more.
“For example, if the woman is 40 and the man is 25, it can all be very passionate and romantic. When he’s 45 and she’s 60, things can often be very different as their physical needs can differ greatly. It is the same as with couples where the male is a lot older.
“Some couples, like the President of France who is 45 year old and the wife, is 69 year old will last, but they are in the minority, I believe.
“Apart from the issue of children, there’s just a natural ageing process. For a lot of women, there’s a significant [physical] change which can have quite an effect on their partner.” he added
According to Tofunmi omolola, a civil servant, age is just a number and what matters most is how both parties perceive the important aspects of life: health, family, work, money, friends, hobbies, leisure, etc. “If your thinking matches with your partner’s, and you feel comfortable, you can continue. It is just a myth that the husband should be older,” she said
Temitope Durotoye, an entrepreneurs explained that it depends on the persons involved.
“Maturity doesn’t come with a number. It can but there are always exceptions to the rule. I know of a few young people that are mature.
According to her; “if I meet a matured young man that I’m older than today and I love him, yes I will marry him if he’s ready. Age is just a number and shouldn’t determine how a marriage should be,” she said.