Challenges we face having big boobs, ladies cry out
By Maria Famakinwa
Many ladies no doubt wish to be endowed with large breasts to make them look sexy and attractive. Some who are not contented with their breast size opt for breasts enlargement to achieve their aims.
However, it is quite surprising to find out that while some ladies are spending huge amounts of money on breasts enlargement within and outside the country, those who are naturally gifted with large boobs are finding it difficult to cope with daily harassments, insults and embarrassments they get mostly from men.
Some of them spoke to The Hope on their experiences. A businesswoman, Mrs Stella Yewande, revealed that all her efforts to hide her breast by putting on bogus tops have not been yielding any result, as she daily gets unnecessary attention from men. “My breasts give me unwarranted attention and unsolicited commentary from men. Yet, I cannot blame God for creating me the way I am,” she said.
“Most times I have to shift some appointments to around 8.pm to avoid embarrassments. There was a time I attended a function with my husband and a man walked up to me and said to me that you have a big pillow size I can rest my head on and forget my pain. Can I have your phone number?
“My husband saw him talking to me and came to meet me. When my husband heard what the man said, he became furious and was ready to fight; if not God that took control, the story would have been different. Since then, my husband stops me from attending any social function, except the ones that concern our family,” she said.The experience of another married young woman, Kehinde Aderopo, was not different from that of Yewande, as she revealed that people’s attitude toward her most times makes her regret having large boobs. “I am always an object of discussion and centre of attraction any where I go. If I have enough money, I prefer hiring a cab to some places to avoid being harassed by the opposite sex. The manner people stare at my breasts makes me regret its size at times,” she said.
“The experience that still remains fresh in my memory was two years ago, when I was on motorcycle popularly called Okada to Oke -Aro, Akure unknown to me that a man had been trailing us. When I got to where I was going, I just saw this man fighting the Okada rider, asking him why he refused to stop when he instructed him to stop. The Okada man asked him why he wanted him to stop when he did not know him, and the man said that since he saw me on the Okada, he was not himself and that he did not care if I was married or not. When the man refused to let me go, I immediately called the attention of a police man, who was controlling vehicles in the area, to help me out. It was then the man left me. I then thought of what would have happened if it was in the dark,” she said.
“I do not enjoy the level of freedom others enjoy due to my endowment. Finding the right size of bra is another challenge that people like us have to deal with all the time. Understanding the fact that we need special bras to package our breasts give us headache because they are not always available. Those who can afford the price get theirs outside the country, some depend on fairly used ones, which are most times preferable but not always available.”
Sharing a similar sentiment, a public servant who simply wants to be addressed as Yemisi revealed that their assets most times make them vulnerable, bring embarrassment and make them feel very uncomfortable with the way people especially men stare at their chest whenever they are walking on the road, as if they are different creatures,” she said, “The fear of being raped prevents me from going out when it is dark, because men are not too busy not to notice my presence any where I go. They call me different names like milk industry, cow bell, Olubunmi (God gift).
“Some men will be begging me for a date, promising what they cannot afford, but I understand that they are only lusting after my breast. Coping with advances from men is becoming disturbing to me. There was a day a man almost grabbed my breasts when I went for shopping. It became very embarrassing when the man instead of begging claimed that he could not control himself at the sight of my breasts and asked if I was married. Some of them will even offer me a free ride, which I always turn down. Married men are mostly those who go after us, enticing us with money and flashy cars, forgetting their marital vows.”
Yemisi who also condemned the insinuation that ladies with large boobs are wayward appealed to people to change their mentality about ladies who are endowed and said that it is another way God wants his work to be appreciated.
Also sharing her experience, a beautician, Mrs Chika Ike, revealed that being heavily endowed has caused her more pains than gains. “I cannot remember how many times I have to turn down party invitations. I am just tired of men making advances to me despite being married with three children. I have had so many bitter experiences from men because of my big breasts but the one that happened recently in May this year . I was at the front of my shop making calls when a man in his car mistakenly drove into the gutter at the front of my shop and smashed the windscreen of his car,” she said.
“Immediately he got down, he started shouting that he lost his focus while looking at my chest. I became embarrassed and asked myself if it was a sin to be blessed with large boobs. It got to a point that I discussed my challenges with a counselor, who made me realise that my boobs was to compliment my beauty and I should appreciate God for creating me in a unique way. Since then, I summon courage never to be bothered about whatever anybody says again. Truly, big boobs compliment beauty, but men make people like me feel bad with their reactions towards us. Men, most times feel uncomfortable when they sight my breast. How I wish there is a law against this shameless idea of men looking at us lustfully,”she said.