By Maria Famakinwa
There is no denying the fact that women prefer stunning dresses. Every woman like to look gorgeous, attractive and presentable. Fashionable women can spend huge amount of money to look beautiful because they like to be admired especially by the opposite sex. To them, suitable clothing enhances their appearance, and a woman with a good fashion sense is attractive.
However, since there is always a reason behind any action, the question about who women actually dress up to attract has remained unanswered due to divergent views. While some women claim they dress up for men, some say they dress up for other women to show class, others argue that they dress up to please themselves as an expression of creativity. Some women who spoke with The Hope revealed who they dress up to impress.
A civil servant, Mrs Odunayo Temitope, explained that the age-long belief that women dress up for men is a myth already overtaken by the reality. According to her, women dress up to experiment their looks and not to impress any man as erroneously argued.
She said: “I dress to spice up my beauty and boost my personality. Doing this give you some level of respect and honour because you will be addressed the way you dress. Dressing for yourself is probably the best way to go about life, if you are worried about who will notice and what others would think, it would affect your personality because you will be too scared to wear what you really like.
“All I want is for a woman to dress well. If you dress well as a woman, your man will be pleased with you and be proud to introduce you to his friends. I always feel unhappy when I see a young woman bereft of dressing ideas, you will want to ask what then makes her attractive to her husband. I dress for self satisfaction and not necessarily to impress anyone,” she said.
Sharing a similar view, a fashion designer, Mrs Bridget Eden, said that she dresses up just to make herself happy. She added that her dressing always reveals her mood and advised women not to dress up to impress anybody if they don’t want to be disappointed.
Her words: “I laugh whenever women claim to be dressing for others and not themselves. You must first appreciate yourself before others appreciate you. As a fashion designer, I have learnt to always dress up for myself which has been helping me get more patronage. If I have been dressing up for others, probably I would have missed my target. Besides, if your reason for dressing up is to get commendation from others, you will seriously be disappointed if those you dressed up for talk you down. It is always better to do things that will please you and not anybody else. So, I dress up everyday to satisfy myself,” she said.
A trader, Mrs. Olamide Olaiya, said that she dresses to impress other women because they are the ones who know the value and efforts put in to achieve a particular look. “It is fantastic getting compliment from other women. I dress for fellow women to show off and let them know that we are not of the same class. I like it when other women beef me because of my dress, it means that I am setting a standard too high for them to achieve and make them envious of me.
A teacher, Mrs Feyikemi Abdul, explained that both married women and ladies dress up to impress men. The woman who condemned the act of dressing up to impress anyone, added that fashion should be something that makes one comfortable and should not be to please anyone.
Her words: “I can tell you with all sincerity that women dress up to please men. That is why some put on revealing or uncomfortable clothes just to steal the show. If women are dressing up for themselves or other women as some claimed, why do they expose cleavages or put on tight clothes? They are doing it to seduce men and not women. Some women don’t mind borrowing money to buy clothes to achieve their lustful desires. To them, impressing other men and getting genuine compliments from them make them feel confident, ecstatic and accepted.”
Asked if she equally dresses up to impress opposite sex, she said: “Your assessment of my dressing should answer that. I am a teacher and a role model and should dress as one. Saying that women dress up for men doesn’t mean there are no exceptions. The fact remains that for a woman to wear revealing clothes, she is not doing so for herself or other women but to get men’s attention. Most women majorly dress up to impress men”.
A beautician, Mrs Eyiwumi Fadairo, hinted that a good percentage of women dress up to impress men and gain men’s attention. The woman who maintained that it is natural for men to admire good looking women, added that some women judge their outlook based on compliments they get from the opposite sex.
Her words: “Women dress up for men. Women are naturally created to crave for attention and they do this with everything in them including their dressing. To some women, there is nothing better than when the opposite sex notices and comments on their outfits. I know some women who will be happy to tell their friends how many men appreciated their dressing. Such will feel disappointed if they don’t get compliments from the opposite sex. To them, it means they are not well dressed for that day.”
However, the beautician explained that irrespective of whether women dress for the same sex or the opposite sex, it is worthy to point out that fashion industry revolves around what others think, which is why people follow trend or wear a particular style.
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