By Josephine Oguntoyinbo
It is completely normal and healthy for couples to argue, simply because you are two separate people, and you are definitely going to have different opinions sometimes, however, you should not stonewall your partner because of this, else it may lead to the end of the relationship.
Stonewalling is when someone completely shuts down in a conversation or refuses to interact with another person. Meanwhile, there are so many forces working tirelessly to ensure that your relationship does not see the light of the day which could be spiritual or physical.
No relationship is without conflict. Even the healthiest relationships will have some friction from time to time; therefore it is how you handle those disagreements that can determine whether it helps or harms your relationship.
While stonewalling may seem like a harmless tactic to deal with problems in your relationship, it can have disastrous effects and may even be a pathway to divorce, hence the need to break down this wall that is dividing your relationship.
In other for the forces plans to succeed, they set traps for you and your spouse and patiently wait for either of you to fall into that trap and then they destroy you. That is why you need to be very careful so as you not to fall into such trap, not just you, but your partner, therefore, lead your partner so that he does not fall into such trap because if they do, it will affect you.
One of these traps they set for you is malice after a misunderstanding and it is something you can never do away with in a relationship but you can decide not to allow such because of the effects it would have.
When you have a misunderstanding with your spouse, stop keeping malice with him or her, stop avoiding your spouse. It is very dangerous, by doing that you have already fallen into their trap. When you avoid him or her and he or she is alone, these evil forces keeps playing with his or her minds and feeding them with negative thoughts, thereby making matters worse.
When you avoid your spouse and you leave them all alone by themselves that is when one beautiful lady or fine dude will come into the picture, and since they are vulnerable, 60 percent of people in such cases end up cheating on their spouse.
Avoiding your spouse after a misunderstanding only creates room for problems, it could create damages that may never be fixed, and so at the end of the day, the beautiful relationship ends, a relationship you could have saved was killed by your own ego and pride.
When there is a misunderstanding, do not avoid each other, apologise whether you are wrong or right, it does not matter, the most important thing is that you did not fall into the trap and your relationship is still intact. The greatest way to resolve misunderstanding is through dialogue, you need to talk about it without unnecessary argument.
Immediately after the misunderstanding, apologize, do not argue about the matter immediately, look for a time that both of you are in a happy mood and then have a conversation about what happened and resolve it.