By Sunmola Olowookere

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What God has joined together, let no man put asunder. So says the holy book. A young couple after a huge debacle in which the wife was caught in an affair have secretly crawled back to each while the family members were still at loggerhead.
It was not the first time such would happen. At times, marriages that people would have thought was on
the verge of collapse would suddenly bounce back and the couples would put all the judges to shame by resolving their differences and coming back together without allowing their families to know.
At these times, those that had showed strong opinions during the couple’s differences are now taken as enemies of their love by the time the quarrel is settled and the couple resume marital relations again.
Whoever says that marriage is not a serious business? They are ill prepared for matrimony.
However, the way that the youth of nowadays throw themselves into matrimony is alarming.
It is usually a scenario of boy meets girl, they started having an affair and before you can say bingo, the girl becomes pregnant after so much rigorous coupling.
As soon as the pregnancy starts to protrude, the girl packs her few belongings inside one sack bag and moves to her boyfriend’s apartment.
Then they start living together as a couple. Do not forget that these are youths forced into marriage by the circumstances of the unexpected pregnancy.
They are not prepared for marriage at all. When they come together, they start breeding like rodents with no serious thought as to how to build their family.
This issue has been bothering my mind since a couple separated and got divorced with their children being at the receiving end in my area. I can’t help wondering, why do immature people get married? Do they not understanding the sanctity and the binding nature of marriage?
In fact, the case of such women is so amazing; they must have grown up in a home without any morals. This further shows the decadence in our environment. Parents no longer have any hold on their children.
In this current scenario, Eniola and Adeola met themselves on the streets. Eniola saw this cute girl and went after her like a randy goat and she too answered him like a she goat in heat. It was an instant combustion.
We lived in a permissive age where ladies no longer feel any need to keep their virtues intact again. And like most ladies in our society now, she gave in easily to his advances and a love relationship ensued.
Now after two kids, the wife began to have extramarital affairs which was a sore point with her husband. Not knowing how to handle the issue, he began to hit her whenever he was provoked and he could not control his anger.
Although she thought she was smart and could hide her affairs but the husband proved to be smarter and would discover her secrets attires.
Despite the fact that he usually hit her over her waywardness, she did not desist. It became a serious issue when she became even bolder and left home for five days and she could not account for her movement while she was gone. She had dropped the kids with her mother and took off.
It was a terrible scene when she came back. Her husband even even insulted his mother in law with claims that she knew about her daughter’s shady dealings.
The husband accused the wife of travelling to be with a lover while she claimed that she went to see her aunt though she refused to allow her husband speak with the supposed aunt.
The husband was livid as he beat her up and threw her out of their matrimonial home upon her return. It was a difficult period for the couple and the children especially who were worst affected by the rift.
Things took a funny twist in the rift between them for five months they were apart. The time they began to meet again, no one could say.
When both families were still at loggerheads, exchanging abuses and curses, the duo had begun meeting secretly and the two parties were shocked to see the duo living together again despite the ongoing feud between the two families.
The husband’s family were more shocked at their son’s sudden decision to go back to his vomit. Due to this, the family is staying aloof from the couple for now. There was nothing they could do as the husband seemed to be telling them “do not help me to chase away my wife “.