How will you react if your love turned sour
By Abiodun Akinbinu
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Researchers described disappointment as a form of sadness, a feeling of loss and uncomfortable space between our expectations and reality.
In other words, disappointment is the realisation of the truth which has not been in existent between partners. As subtle and swift as this feeling can be, it aggravates with continuous reoccurrence which gets to a level where it becomes unbearable.
Disappointment has the power to empty or empower us. When our anticipation of what we expect is followed by great disappointment, it causes so much pains. Therefore, disappointment is a profound relationship killer.
One of the most unpleasant emotions in life is disappointment, as it gives way to doubt.
Most times people face disappointment in relationship or marriage for one reason or the other which can lead to heart break.
When a spouse does not demonstrate his or her love as expected, it always leads to frustration and disappointment. Researches showed that women are the most affected by this trend.
Such was the case between Segun and Folashade. The duo had been in a relationship spanning five years. The relationship has now blossomed into courtship of two years.
They have already sealed up an agreement that Folashade will be the mother of Segun’s unborn children. Both parents have been duly notified about their intention to becoe husband and wife and they (parents) have given their consent in the relationship.
Suddenly, when Segun and Folashade have picked a date for the solemnisation of their holy matrimony, when Folashade has widely informed her friends of her proposed wedding to Segun and preparations is in top gear, Folashade got information about Segun’s planned marriage to another lady, Tomi.
as heart-rending the news was to Folashade, she later confirmed its veracity. To Folashade, it was as if the world has come to an end.
To this end, The Hope feminine line went round the town to interview people on what their reactions would be if it actually happened to them.
According to a student of National Open University Of Nigeria (NOUN), Grace Sunday,” It is a very big issue which can lead to total heart break, but nevertheless, I will do nothing than to be happy, but it is not an easy task ,yet I will be grateful, because I do not know what God has delivered me from, it might be God who has saved me from a future broken relationship, therefore, I will continue with the journey of my life.
Also speaking is a trader, Mrs Roseline Daniel, who said the wedding will not hold.”None of the wedding will hold because, I will make sure that I scatter the wedding, it is not easy besides, it is impossible, no man can try that with me, if he tried it, it is either the man dies or we both died together”.
In her reaction, a business woman, Mrs Patricia Ezinna, stated that “The question is somehow complicated, but if I receive such notification as you say, I will do my findings first, and be sure that the information is true, and if it is true, I will cancel my own wedding and attend his own, that is maturity. After that, I will relocate from where I reside and make sure he lose all my contacts, but of a truth, it is a heart breaking scenario. I do not pray for such”.
According to a makeup artiste, Courage Babatunde, she will do nothing ,saying that ” In this life, you have to meet some people so that you can learn, though it is painful, but I will hold on to my faith, beside, it might not be the purpose of God for me to get married to the man, it is written in the holy bible that the thought of God for his children is of good and not of evil ,if I am jilted, I will take it as my destiny.
In her reaction, a teacher, Mrs Bola Adeolu said life itself is a lesson. A man that does that is no doubt wicked, and a heart breaker. I will feel bad about it ,but I will move on with my life. God is not on the side of the wicked. He is a God of vengeance, since I did not offend him and he felt that is how to punish an innocent person, I know God will always be there for me to provide a better person later.
Speaking on this, a prophetess, Evangelist Mrs Owoyemi Poooola posited that she would manage the situation because ,”I do not want to become a psychiatric patient or lose my life to somebody who does not care for me, if it is the plan of the devil or enemy of progress or his natural habit, I will put them to shame. My destiny is not in their hands. My advice to whoever that may be in such situation is to take it easy, do not kill yourself or become devastated. Though it is not easy, but you can only put evil doers to shame by staying alive. It is happening in our society, but the victims should hold on to God and live to declare the glory of God in their lives. We can reclaim what we have lost by staying alive .Every disappointment is a blessing. Just keep on praying and obey God’s commandments. I equally warn betrayers of trust to repent because, the end will be disastrous”.
