Renew your relationship this valentine
By Josephine Oguntoyinbo
While Valentine’s Day is celebrated in most countries, different cultures have developed their own traditions for this festival. In some parts of the world Valentine’s Day is observed as a day for expressing love between family members and friends, rather than that of romantic couples. Some traditions include leaving lollies and gifts for children and others include acts of appreciation between friends.
Valentine’s Day is most commonly associated with romantic love, with millions of Valentine’s Day cards being exchanged each year. Gifts of flowers or a single red rose are sent with romantic messages to loved ones while couples spend special time together.
Many couples choose to celebrate Valentine’s Day with dinner, a picnic or special home-cooked meal. Many restaurants offer Valentine’s Day dinner promotions and food is often presented with symbols of love like hearts and flowers. Another popular Valentine’s Day activity is to visit a luxury hotel ,stay in a beautiful location, allowing a couple to enjoy some quality time together.
Marriage proposals are also popular on Valentine’s Day, and it is often chosen as the perfect day to express their love and commitment.
However, women are reputed for loving February 14th. Many men even consider it a woman’s holiday. It is a day when love, passion and romance are supposed to be at their peak.
Men are supposed to be enchanting while women are supposed to be impressed. But, for many couples, this Valentine’s Day is just another day; what has been done in years passed is set to be repeated again.
No creative efforts and no new ideas are being introduced to strengthen the relationship.
These are simply two lives bound together by commitment and routine, therefore celebrating Valentine’s Day is part of the routine. It does not have to be that way, even if it has been that way for a while. Valentines day is largely based on the spirit and plot of change.
Stories and movies about this holiday commonly carry the line of a couple whose relationship seems headed in one direction but then takes an unexpected turn. Therefore, If your relationship is heading to a different direction, you have an opportunity to really make memories this February 14th.
Few things are as memorable as major changes in a relationship. Here are some ways Valentine’s day tend to achieve that:
Take Control: If your partner usually makes the plans or you usually make them together, initiate a change. This year, take control of all of the arrangements. For more impact, shroud the details in mystery. Do not tell your partner what you are planning. Instead ,arouse interest with unexpected hints. Imagine the degree of disappointment your partner will feel if you mystify the occasion and then reveal a dull plan. Consider what you have done in the past and then consider things that you have never done. Try to change some habits to ginger the relationship, let today be a special package. Whatever you choose should also display consideration for your partner’s preferences and desires. Valentine’s Day does not need to be confined to the normal giving of flowers, going to the movies, and having dinner. This is an occasion to celebrate your love and admiration for your man.
Devote the Day: The first difference that you could make this year is devoting the whole day to celebrating. This could involve an all day devoted to inactivity. It is just a matter of what makes the two of you feel good.
Show An Unexpected Side: The time that people in relationships spend together is often dull because they have become a dull pair. You can get your partners attention doing something that you normally would not agree to even if you were asked. If, for example, you are normally strict about your workday routine and are always in bed by 9:pm and up by 6:am, reveal your spontaneous and risque side. You can even spend the night out of town and drive back the following morning . If your partner has been after you to loosen up, use this as the occasion to do it in a special way.
The Day After: Do not let the occasion die at midnight. Send another bouquet or buy another gift the following day. Make sure you let your partner knows that you did so because the night before opened up something new. This year is not so far gone as to prevent you from making resolutions. To this end, use Valentine’s Day to renew your relationship. But remember that you will have to continue to work on it beyond this period. Remember that true love is celebrated everyday. Enjoy your Val.