By Adedotun Ajayi

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Social media’s impact on homes is one of the most important conversations of our time. It has been ruling our lives, work and relationships has both positive and negative impacts on our relationships; some people met their soulmates through the social media while others got divorced after finding out their partners cheated on them via social media apps. It is not a surprise that social media triggered a number of conflicts among people, especially married couples.
The effect of social media on marriage in Nigeria isn’t easy to summarize. Though still unsubstantiated, some drugs claimed that social media overuse is similar to addiction. Social media encourages some to share their personal lives and relationships for scrutiny a social media.
Drawing constant comparisons to things we perceive as idyllic can cause envy and dissatisfaction. We doubt our ability to measure up, despite no reason to think so. Experts refer to these feelings as Imposter Syndrome.
According to Koyejo Adeloye, a cleric, “Marriage has never been easy. Even the best marriages are tested and may fail. Divorce not only separate couples, but also injure children and alienate family members and friends. It is no surprise that prophet Malachi wrotes, “’The man who hates and divorces his wife,’ says the Lord, the God of Israel, ‘does violence to the one he should protect,’ says the Lord Almighty. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful” (Malachi 2:16).
“While in some cases divorce is unavoidable as a last resort the church must earnestly endeavor to strengthen marriages and families in general. Many christian ministries are dedicated to supporting strong marriages, not least of which is Focused on the family. What might local pastors do in their roles as teachers and counselors to help marriages stay together and even thrive?
Social media stories have poisoned the minds of many ladies especially those for addicted to luxuries. Our ladies in generation love but money. They are all looking for ready made men to marry and not ready to work hard in creating wealth with their partners. They have failed to understand that love itself create wealth and when you build wealth with the one you love and care for you, you will find comfort in the relationship Ladies should stop chasing those in wealth but build wealth with them. Most ladies marry men for wealth and not for love and understanding, but such marriages are bound to fail. Social media on it own have ruined a lot of marriages and what these gullible ladies don’t understand is that, social media is full of fake life and 80% of news on it is fake.
Olubunmi Adewa, a relationship expert and marriage counselor, said, One in three marriages always ended abruptly because of an online affairs. Social Media is playing a big role in people’s divorce. And the problem with social media is that the evidence is right there unless you’re smart enough to delete your tracks.
“Before the close of year 2020 and the beginning of 2021, there had been several broken homes stories on the social media which also resulted to DNA tests from couples.
“In another social media story, a guy angrily beat up his girlfriend because he saw her taken a snapchat with a man in an event. In another story a girl dumped her boyfriend for refusing to send her money for Christmas not minding the financial status of the man In a story I got from a witness in Benin, a man tricked his wife that he’s travelling for a business and he returned home that same day suspecting his wife was cheating on him but came home to meet her doing her house chores. He had lost trust in his wife because of the stories share on social media. All these are just few of the numerous stories that had led to broken marriages, relationships.
“As a matter of concern, we all have errors, issues and reasons. We do what we do on social media but the consequences are sometimes unpalatable. A woman can naturally dump her husband because he couldn’t meet up with her demands. She begins to treat him like rags, framing up issues to end the marriage. She does so much to frustrate her husband and the man being a weaker vessel can end up committing suicide upon discovering that the woman he invested so much on, has dumped him. The woman ends up with a rich man, when he gets broke again she dumps him. These are some of the numerous effects social media is having on marriages. Social media can’t be stopped or banned but it can be controlled.”
On the contrary, Damilola Felicia said “Every relationship is different, and some couples are forced to spend more time apart than others. Many people have learned to use social media as communication and accountability tools You can cheer each other on and share special moments when you can’t be there in-person.
Some people use social media to stay connected with their partner’s friends. With platforms like Facebook and Twitter, it’s easier to form new friendships and relationships. It’s an easy way to strengthen your sense of communication. But capturing intimate moments and sharing them on social media is a No No for me, an intimate moment is no longer an intimate moment if you’re sharing it with the world. Relationships are sacred because of the boundaries and respects that surround it. Not every picture needs to be uploaded to Facebook and social media in genera., It’s a slippery slope relying on external validation to prove to yourself that your relationship is good enough, rather than finding answer within.”