By Maria Famakinwa

Kunle, nicknamed “gorilla” while on campus because of his ugly look was able to marry Remi, a true expression of beauty after he paid her a surprise visit in Ibadan when the school was closed down due to ASUU strike. Kunle, whose efforts to win Remi’s love on campus failed, vowed to spare nothing at getting the woman he so much desired. He visited Remi in Ibadan after getting her address from her friend in Lagos. Remi was however, surprised that Kunle could risk his life from Lagos and was able to trace her skewed location in Ibadan. That was Kunle’s  winning strategy. Today they are happily married with four children.

Remi said: “I am happy to marry the most handsome man on earth. Kunle was called “gorilla” then on campus, but today, he is my Mr World. I thank God that I did not lose him to another lady. Otherwise, I would have been regretting. I left the man I was dating for Kunle because he went the extra mile to show me his unique love. People may give him any nickname but he remain my best man. Kunle has proved beyond any reasonable doubt that ugly men make better husbands because ladies hardly crave for them.”

A cosmetologist, Abidemi Eniola, who described an ugly man as a one-woman’s husband revealed that an ugly man who can satisfy her in bed is handsome. “My first criterion to consider a man is how good he is in bed and not his look. Agreed, ugly men are more caring and faithful to their wives because ladies don’t run after them, but what can keep the woman in the marriage is the man’s action in bed and his financial muscle. These two qualities in an ugly man supersede his physical appearance to me. 

 “If a man lacks good look, but is able to make it up in bed, he is handsome. Sincerely speaking, women who married ugly men will tell you that they are better husbands because they are handsome in bed. This is due to the fact that they focus only on their wives as their looks put most ladies off.

“If an unattractive guy can make me to be fulfilled as a woman, give me peace of mind, remain committed to the marital vow and perform his conjugal duty as expected, he is the most handsome. All I want is my man keeping to me alone. Such a man will have enough of me,” she said.

Sharing a similar view, a banker, Mrs Omowumi Adeniran, explained that she ended up marrying her husband after an handsome man jilted her. “When some of my friends got to know that I was in a relationship with Ayo, they didn’t believe it until they confirmed it from me. Some of my family members were surprised that I could settle for such a short man whose look was not inviting but I am happy and contended.

“My man, though, not handsome but gives me peace of mind, always so excited to see me. It is consistently fun and romantic being with him. He ever interested in everything and anything I am doing. My uncommon companion. His actions tell who cares to listen that he is the right man for me. Though ugly, he remains the type women pray to have, unlike most handsome men who maltreat their wives because they can easily replace them with one of their many admirers and suitors.  My husband has affirmed the popular saying that beauty is truly in the eye of the beholder. To me, he is an embodiment of inward and outward beauty.”

To an undergraduate, Opeyemi Okikiola, an ugly man with a fat pocket is  handsome as far as she is concerned. She added that such a man would consider himself lucky to marry a beautiful woman and try to satisfy her in order to guard against handsome men preying on her.

Her words: “I don’t think any man is ugly if he is rich. If you carry out a plebiscite, you will be surprised that 90 percent of ladies will prefer ugly men with good financial stand to poor handsome men. A man who is ugly and lucky to marry a beautiful woman understand that he must do everything to keep her. Ladies today don’t bother about how handsome men look if they are caring, financially buoyant and can play the marital game well. In fact, I will prefer an ugly man with these qualities and make him up to suit my taste. After all, there are some men who were very ugly before they got married and are now looking very handsome, even among the celebrities. Once a man is financially capable and is ready to be committed to me, he is qualified, irrespective of his physical appearance, because that is the only area I may have issue with him. I can marry the most ugly man on earth, provided his pocket is commensurable to my needs,” she said.

Speaking differently, a married woman, Mrs Wuraola Olufeyikemi, disagreed with the assertion that ugly men are better husbands, as she argued that if a beautiful woman marries an ugly man, she has already put herself in a difficult trap. She said: “There is no compatibility between an ugly man and a beautiful woman. I mean that the centre cannot hold, going by some past experiences.

“A young beautiful lady married an ugly man from my village because she was convinced of his love for her. Things started falling apart after the woman gave birth to their first child. The man would go through the wife’s phone and call her to explain every received call. The woman became tired when her husband went to her office and beat her up after alleging that she was having an affairs with her boss. The woman was hospitalized and after she was discharged, she left the marriage.

“That has always been the case when an ugly man is lucky to marry a beautiful woman because the man will be feeling inferior, believing that the woman is cheating on him because he doesn’t measure up with the woman in terms of beauty. If spousal killings are reported between an handsome man and a beautiful woman due to marital infidelity on the part of either of them, then you should expect more of such when a beautiful woman marries an ugly man. 

“So, beautiful ladies who want to marry ugly men should have a rethink. They should be ready to face the consequences. Being a caring husband has nothing to do with one’s physical appearance. There are some handsome men who are better husbands, faithful and more committed to their marital vows than ugly men,” she said.

Also, a self employed, Glory Ewah, disclosed that any beautiful lady who chooses to marry an ugly man has something to hide. According to her, they are doing so for selfish reasons. “Most ladies today prioritize how handsome their men are and can do anything to marry good looking men.

“I don’t share the thought that ugly men are more caring. This is because most ugly men also believe that for beautiful ladies to have agreed to be their wives, there were no suitors for them. The society as well perceives beautiful ladies as wayward who could not make good wives. Besides, who says that ugly men don’t womanize? They are the pretentious type who hide under their looks to feign faithfulness. Once a man is okay financially, he can get any woman of his choice, either ugly or handsome. Marrying an ugly man as a beautiful lady does not guarantee marital bliss except the lady is lucky.

“Nature has made ugly men vulnerable, so they lack confidence due to inferiority complex. They become very aggressive at any slight provocation accusing their beautiful wives of infidelity, disrespectfulness leading to marital disharmony because they are not compatible. I have heard of a dwarf beating his beautiful wife mercilessly over flimsy excuses that led to their separation. Being a caring husband depends on personality and character, not being ugly or handsome,” she said.