By Kemi Olatunde
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It is sweet and interesting to be in love. At these times, many women would be hearing the wedding bells clanging in their minds. Love to women is of the route to the “happily ever after”.
However, it is crucial for the woman to know the way to her man’s heart. Hence, women must ensure that she has him all to herself. If a man is committed to his wife, even if she has noticeable flaws, he is able to take the bitter with the sweet in as much as she has his heart’s passwords. The man might be able to purge himself of ‘side chicks’ when the woman is able to win his heart.
According to researches by relationship experts, food and sex have been on the top list of winning men’s hearts.
Many people believe that when a woman is active sexually, the man need not toss and turn restlessly the whole night. Rather, he enjoys sound sleep after he had sated from the exercise.
On the other hand, some other group of people believe that the woman takes the lead when it comes to preparing varieties of food and through this, she can always find her way to the topmost part of her man’s heart.
Speaking with The Hope, an Akoko Prince who resides in Akure but craved anonymity described sex as one of the things that attract a man to a woman, noting that food can be gotten anywhere to have the stomach filled.
According to him; “when a man sees a woman, the only thing that runs through his mind is how to enter her. Anybody can prepare food for a man but when it comes to sex, you get it from selected women.
“Any lady or woman who wants to enjoy her man must not be found wanting in the ‘other room.’ It is natural, if you are happy doing it, you will be attracted to the woman. If a woman is weak in other aspects but excellent in sex, the man makes up for her in those areas.
“Most men are happier after having good sex as they believe that whatever they lay their hands on after the act succeeds.
” In the olden days, our forefathers used to have barren women as the last wife not because they didn’t love the ones before her but just to ensure that they have one who they can enjoy good sex with without getting pregnant.
“As you see a man at his place of work who is used to putting calls through to his wife, it means that his wife has been performing her duty on the bed regularly and this will eventually make her have all her needs met by the man.”
Also, Chief Odofin Ekundayo from Oba-Akoko described sex as the consumation of marriage stating that no relationship/ marriage can work without it.
“In my former place of work, a colleague once told us that whenever he had sex with his wife, the wife will forget to ask him for money for upkeep all through that week and that is why sex is very essential in marriage as it bonds couples.”
Deacon Fadoro Ayodeji of The Gospel Faith Mission International described sex as the best way to a man’s heart with backings from several verses of the Bible.
“After God created heaven and earth, He created man and noticed that he was incomplete until the woman was created. Immediately, the man fell in affection with the woman.
“If the way to a man’s heart is food, we should know that the man God created had been cooking by himself before the creation of the woman.
“The gospel of today makes it mandatory to preach sex as a way of fortifying relationship between a man and a woman. In the book of 1 Cor. 7:5, Apostle Paul said; ‘defraud ye not one another except it by consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your inconsistent.’
“The Bible has sealed it, for any woman to seek the favour of man, she must not suffer the man. There is nothing bad for couples to have it at least four times in a week.”
A civil servant, Mrs Bisi Lawani in a contrary opinion explained that food attracts a man more than sex, noting ” you may not give a man sex but food is crucial for him to be active.
According to her; “with sumptuous meals, the man is good to go. Sex is good too but with food, he has it all. There are even many adages in Yoruba which lay emphasis on food as the way to a man’s heart.”
A media personel, Adeyemi Junaid Gold supported the above claim, noting that food comes before any other thing.
He said: “As nice as it is to have sex with one’s wife, a good wife with good cooking skills wins the heart of the man. A good woman is assessed by her abilities in the kitchen and feeding of the family. Most times, when I eat, I feel relaxed in my sitting room and ask my wife to turn around for me so as to have a view of her God given endowment. When I am hungry, I will never see anything no matter the parade in front of me.
” A woman that has the skills of cooking is the one that can keep the flames of my heart. Good food can surpress anger in a man’s heart as it is considered as a way to calm the nerves of the man when he is angry.
“I could remember in those days, when my mother wanted to collect our school fees from our father, she would only ask after he must have eaten a well prepared meal by her, she dared not ask before the meal.
“For me, when my food is prepared at the appropriate time with a balanced recipe, it gives me joy as I do feel on top of the world.
“Sex has its own value anyway as it follows after good food. A woman who has the rythm of sex can also attracts men’s heart, even when he is floating outside, his heart will be within.”
A 44-year-old mechanic, Dele Adeyemi chose both food and sex, noting that sex comes after eating good food which according to him gives the strength for the action.
According to him, he is always active sexually whenever he perceives the aroma of his wife’s meal after which he enters the room with his wife for the second version of the food.
A 52-year-old engineer who does not want his name in print refused to chose from the list, noting that respect does it all.
His words; “When you respect the man, he feels honoured and gives the woman all she needs. There is no two ways to a man’s heart than according him the desired respect. A man desires respect in a woman and that is one of the reasons marriages of these days especially that of the elite collapse. Most times, the woman claims to be educated and starts competing with the man and mind you, marriage isn’t a competition where one emerges the winner.
“In those days when polygamy was the order of the day, the women who were well cultured and respectful enjoyed the husband more than other wives. The Bible didn’t say give your husband sex but give your husband respect.
People suffer these days as a result of vagrant display of impunity and forsaking of the law. The law of nature works in tandem with the laws of God.
Marriage was conceived by God for man to get help from the woman.
The new age we are tends to make people feel we can circumvent the laid down rules that govern nature. And sincerely, women are more disobedient than men. Their quiet nature only misleads. Man might fall in love with a woman as a result of her dexterity in the indoor game. He might also decide to marry her for being good in the kitchen. A man can also fall in love with a woman’s physical appearance. These are magnets that pull men to women. But they do not sustain the relationship. Go and check out the number of marriages that have hit the rocks. You will realise that the women are beautiful, good in bed and good cooks. But they lack home training of respecting their husbands.
I do not know a man who loves a disrespectful wife. A wife that disrespects her husband has no husband. The man does not see her as a good wife. He will not love her. Such men are forced to seek succour in the comfort of an appreciative concubine.
A good wife does not argue with her man. Such behaviour puts off the man. It shows that the wife does not submit to the man.”
Medical Director of a private clinic in Akure, Dr. Victor Adefesoye noted that both sex and food are important in winning a man’s heart, adding that a woman should do all within her reach to keep the man all to herself.
He said; “Every man likes food and sex and many more things. Anytime I have the opportunity to counsel young or intending couple, I always advise the lady/woman on the need to be submissive to her man as it is the spiritual assignment given to her by God. A woman should honour, respect and be submissive to her husband.
“Every man likes the food being eaten on the dinning table and the one being enjoyed in bed with the woman. That is the sexual interaction which always cement the developed love in marriage or relationship. A woman should not fail in the provision of these ‘foods’ so that the man don’t seek them elsewhere especially sex. A woman should be good in sex so that the man doesn’t get it outside the home. Likewise, she should be able to present the man with different dishes of delicious meals so that he doesn’t get that from another lady/woman elsewhere.
“If the woman is able to do these, the man misses her every moment of the day and the man in return, goes extra mile to make her happy by satisfying her needs to make her comfortable and also ensure her all round security.”
A business man, Damilola Adeleye said that “any lady that will find a better place in my heart should be able to give me hot sex. I should not be able to have a spot in my heart for other ladies when we are done. I like sex and that is why I do go crazy for my wife because she has all it takes to keep me. She is not only good in bed, her cooking skills is second to none. She knows the best meal to give at every given time.
“I pity those ladies who don’t like giving their men sex and that is why they are easily dumped. A lady should be able to take the man to cloud nine and I tell you, when she does, the man becomes her slave.”
