By Damilola Akinmolayan & Paul Anya
Almost every young person desires to get married at a point in his or her life. Even those who are still “hustling” would still love to get married, once they are convinced that they have made enough money.
Do young people just marry anyone that comes their way or they have their specifications? The answer is a bold yes. Both young ladies and young men have the qualities they look out for in a prospective spouse, but what are they?
That is what The Hope seeks to find out, but specifically from the ladies.
Women want a man that is honest and trustworthy. He will instantly become more appealing and desirable to his woman. If he’s dependable, truthful, genuine, and speaks from the heart, he’s a guy who is worth pursuing, as people can take him by his word. “Trust and trustworthiness allow relationships to deepen,” says Miss Adewole Joy. After all, a woman needs to know that, if a relationship is to last long-term, she’ll be able to rely on her man, just as he should be able to rely on her.
Mr Sunkanmi Olatunde , a resident of Akure stated that “in the olden days, love was the most important thing ladies wanted from men. But now, the world has become civilized and civilization world has destroyed the world. Women love money more than anything. There is nothing they can’t use to find money. What ladies wants from men is money”.
Mrs Temitope Ogunleye said ladies want love from men. As for me, I was dating my husband before getting married. I didn’t demand money from him. I only wanted love from him and I didn’t take him for granted, because I knew he is my husband forever. When we started dating, we ensured we knew each other’s behaviours before getting married”.
Miss Oyewumi Temilade is of the opinion that “ladies need men who will show kindness, patience, understanding, empathy and compassion. Regardless of the type of relationship, men and women should be considerate of each other’s feelings. Recognize that a partner’s trials and tribulations matter to him or her and that partners’ roles are to cherish and care for each other.
Mr Olasunkanmi Ojo said” what ladies want from men are care, love and also protection and to be faithful. As a woman, if you have a man that cares for you and he’s faithful and also protects you, you will love and cherish the man for the rest of your life.”
Mr Opeyemi Miller in his view said” Being supportive to the woman in your life can do a world of good. Supporting your partner is a primary role. If your partner or a friend needs emotional or practical support, be there to assist in small and big way. Whether it’s taking time to listen, or more active involvement in major decisions, child rearing, finances, etc., make your presence a positive and supportive one. That is what women want.
Mr Ayanfe Martin “Emotional maturity is essential. It’s okay to have some childish fun when it’s appropriate, but it’s important for women and men to behave like grown ups when it’s time to do so, Being aware that brute strength does not equal intelligence is also helpful in maintaining healthy communication and connection. Sometimes it’s better to sit back and think through problems before trying to manhandle your partner into a forced solution.