By Josephine Oguntoyinbo
Dissolution of marriage is an unhappy event surrounded by disappointment, loss of dreams and expectations.
Marriage starts with sweetness, high hopes and expectations but unfortunately, people feel disappointed when they face things that they have not planned or wished.
One of the most unpleasant emotions in life is disappointment. It gives way to doubt. Disappointment is the realization of the truth which has not been in existent between partners. It aggravates with continuous reoccurrence which gets to a level where it becomes unbearable.
From a legal perspective, divorce is a process of disengaging partners from the legal marriage contract and making sure that those things the spouses are responsible for (including children and property) are properly accounted and cared for.
Some believed that divorce serves an important function in legally and emotionally freeing people to form another relationship.
Most people do not consider important things when entering into marriage. Many people have been disappointed and divorced.
Disappointments have the power to empty or empowered. When our anticipation or what we expect turned to disappointment, the pain can be unbearable. Disappointment is a profound relationship killer.
Disappointment and divorce are very common event nowadays, many people have been affected by it, either by going through it as a spouse or a child. You can feel like the loneliest person in the world when you are contemplating about disappointment and divorce. It is not uncommon that couples disappoint each other, either through fighting, cheating, arguments among others until they fall apart.
In addition, disappointment in marriage can lead to divorce, depending on some vital factors, such as maturity level of the couple, different expectations, tolerance level and among others.
To this end, The Hope gathered in separate interviews from some people and they shared their views on the topic.
According to a lawyer, Mrs Tola Adebayo, infidelity is the major reason disappointment in marriage leads to divorce.
“Extra marital affairs are responsible for the breakdown of most marriages that end in divorce, anger and resentment are common underlying reasons for cheating, along with differences in sexual appetite and lack of emotional intimacy.
“In addition, physical or emotional abuse is a sad incidence for the victims. Even couples with the best intentions are sometimes unable to overcome their challenges, thereby ending up in the courtrooms.
“Unrealistic expectations can put a lot of constraints on the other person, which make them feel let down”,she stressed.
In his comment, a lawyer, Festus Balogun said “Every couple must have their own way of living together as one body who enjoy joyful and respectful relationship. Divorce is one of the worst thing anybody can experience emotionally. Constant arguments is one of the reason disappointment leads to divorce, many find it hard to agree with the other person’s point of view which leads to a lot of arguments without resolution. Money is another issue, this ranges from different spending habits, inability to meet up with the financial needs of one’s spouse and making more money than the other, causing a power struggle. All these can strain a marriage to a breaking point”.
Also speaking is a Civil Servant, Mrs Bose Oluyede who explained that one of the main reasons disappointment in marriage leads to divorce is the issue of trust. “Love implies trust, which means where there is no trust, there cannot be real love. Once trust is lost in a relationship, the relationship is gradually leading for doom. Trust issue may include Jealously, lack of emotional support and lack of financial compatibility”.
A Proprietress, Mrs Fola Akinola posited that “If marriage is based on false impression, there will surely be a divorce at the end. In a situation whereby spouses are not truthful to one another, when hopes and wishes begin to crumble, these lead to divorce”.
According to a teacher, Mrs Bola Babatope, disappointment leads to divorce ,when we cannot forgive and forget, saying that we are human being therefore, our flesh are bound to lead us into temptation.