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Why men keep side chicks

By Damilola Akinmolayan

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Over the ages, men are seen as hunters at heart. They move from one prey to the other, following their instincts.
Through the eyes of many people, our investigation reveals the hold that side chicks have over men.
Most men The Hope spoke with believe that wives may never be able to compete with the side chicks in terms of allure, attention to details and penchant for romance.
Wives often wonder what is it about a side chick that makes her so appealing to man, who already has a girlfriend, fiancee, or worse, a wife and kids of his own.
The side chick is not unknown in modern relationships, or in relationships of previous eras for that matter. She is the mistress, the other woman, the one who never comes home, the hidden one that no one knows, the force behind the scenes that a man cannot resist. The side chick is the babe over whom man is willing to risk it all. Most times after this great encounter or discovery, the question that women find themselves asking, either rhetorically in the darkness and still silence of their empty beds or to the man’s face when he quietly tiptoes through the front door late in the night is: ‘what is special about her?!’
Some phrase theirs as ‘what does she have that I don’t?’ and ‘what does she give you that I don’t?’ But the essence of those questions remains the same all the time. Women want to know what is it about the side chick that makes her irresistible.
A cross section of people who spoke with The Hope explained why men have side chicks.
Mr Adedayo Dotun, a resident in Akure said, I am not in support of men having side chicks, but if I really want to peep into their world by trying to understand why, I think it’s purely because of insecurity. Most of the men believe ladies are not trustworthy and reliable and they are always cautious about being cheated, so in view of this, they tend to protect their emotions by having a side-chick just like a plan B . Although it’s an entirely different story for some, because they believe they might not be properly satisfied enough with just a lady, basically they are just being promiscuous, while for some, it’s because of the frustration and torture they are getting from their women
But all the same I still believe a strong relationship should be built on trust and respect for each other.
Mr Tinubu Tiwatope, civil servant said a man is drawn to a side chick due to peace of mind she gives him. Men can hardly say no to the chance to put in less commitment than normal, escape from the stress and pressure their women mount on them, while likely enjoying more sex. These are the offers too juicy to resist for men. Men want the security of a relationship, but they also want the freedom of being single.
Guys tolerate nagging and abuse from their women every minute of every day. The point of side chicks is so that when your wife starts misbehaving and throwing tantrums left, right and centre over some trivial issue, you have another girl waiting in the wings. Instead of starting all over again, courting a new girl takes time and effort, side chicks help a guy to avoid that and it speeds up the process of moving onto the next chick.
For Mrs Taiwo kehinde, a public servant, men are drawn to the side chick because with her, he experiences less stress. There are issues in relationship that ultimately put strain on men. Issues like money, stuff to do with kids, rent, and the expectation of a certain level of accountability. In general, this rightly puts certain expectations on her man. A side chick doesn’t have to expect anything except trips and sex. It is easy to get the feeling that having a side chick is justifiable, provided that the man doesn’t get peace of mind with the wife, gets overly pressured, get pestered for a level of commitment he’s incapable of giving, or in the instance where he feels the sex is not enough.
Mr Olasunkanmi Samuel, a resident in Akure said is an answer to the call of nature. If you study the creation of men critically, you will notice men are created, the eggs fertility is more compare to women’s.
A man never enters menopause, but a woman does. If you see a cock, you will notice he claims any hen, even his mother too…But a Godly and responsible man denies himself the pleasure to be called big by people must especially a woman who think is easy to be a man
Thus the eggs in a man can produce many children, which simply means when God said dominate and replenish the earth specifically means men’s duty to reproduce double. Men can’t help it, that’s what hormones have programmed them to do. So when a guy has had enough of his main chick, he moves on and forgets about loving his main chick again (if he ever did). It protects a man’s feelings and stops him getting hurt again. “Love” is just a girl’s excuse to walk all over a guy and treat him well.
Mr Simeon Adeoye said men have side chicks to get sexual satisfaction.
Love, care, romance, sex are very important in a relationship or marriage. If a wife couldn’t satisfy the husband with that, he will definitely have someone else that will take her role.
Total attention is very key to see the real beauty of a relationship. If a wife refuses to give the husband full attention she’s definitely opening the door for a side chick. Because some of them have forgotten that many beautiful girls are out there looking for handsome and responsible men to get along with. Ignorance is a deadly disease that weakens relationship unexpectedly.
Before their goals can be achieved, there should be decision making the husband can make decisions with his partner [wife] on a project that concerns the family. Uncaring attitude of a women can lead a man to have side chick who will care for him.
Also, Helen Adeleye said the reason why men have side chicks might be as a result of two things. One, it is either, the man is a covetous fellow or the man is not satisfied with the wife he married.

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    22nd Jan 2021 Reply

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