By Sade Adewale, Ondo
A jealous housewife in Idanre is currently repenting at leisure as she is made to cool off her temper at Surulere female correctional center in Ondo after she gave reins to her base instincts and poured hot water on a lady she suspected to be her husband’s sidechick.
The suspect, a 39-year-old food vendor, Esther Godwin, was arrested by men of Olofin police station in Idanre, after pouring hot water on the victim, Endurance Samuel, whom she alleged of sleeping with her husband.
According to a close family source, the suspect had gotten green with jealousy and attacked the victim, following rumour of an illicit affair between her husband and Endurance.
According to the source, the suspect called the victim on the phone around 10 am on the fateful day to come and collect the palm oil her husband, Sunday Godwin was owing her.
It was learnt that when the victim got to the suspect’s shop, she offered her a seat and supposedly left to bring the palm oil only to later resurface from the backyard with a jar in hand and queried the victim why she was sleeping with her husband, but the victim denied the allegation.
The source also told The Hope that as the victim made to leave, Esther held her cloth, pulled her back and poured hot water on her body.
The victim screamed in pain which attracted other neighbours and she was immediately rushed to the Health centre in the town but later referred to General Hospital, Alade Idanre where she was still receiving treatment.
When visited at the hospital, Endurance in pains, explained that although she sometimes go to the farm with Godwin as a labourer, they had only a working relationship.
“Esther called me from where I was learning tailoring to come and collect the palm oil her husband is owing me because I also work as a labourer for some farmers in the town. I rushed out of my oga’s shop excitedly to the place, not knowing that the call was just to lure me to her shop where she was selling food, to pour hot water on me.” she narrated.
It was gathered that the woman was thereafter arrested and after preliminary investigations by the police, the case was charged to court.
Following her arraignment at the magistrate court, the trial magistrate, Magistrate Remi Adelakin ordered that she should be remanded at the female correctional centre, Surulere, Ondo till July 17, 2023.
The suspect, according to the source is still nursing a month-old baby as at the time she committed the offense and was arrested. She went along with the baby to the prison.
The husband of the suspect, Godwin, in his reaction, denied having any affair with Endurance, and said he only engaged her as a labourer on his farm.
“I am the one paying for the victim’s treatment at the hospital since the incident happened to date.” He lamented.
On the day of adjournment which was 17th July 2023, the defendant (Esther Godwin) failed to appear before the court. The court was informed that she was sick and had been taken to the hospital by the female correctional officers in Ondo for treatment.
The magistrate handling the case further ordered that the defendant be remanded till the victim gets well and can come to court to give evidence. The court also added that the defendant should come to court with a doctor’s report to prove that she was sick and that was why she was absent in the court.
Speaking on implications of jealousy and hot temper in relationships, a lecturer in the Department of Sociology, Dr Babatunde Durojaiye, stated that egocentrism is the major reason for jealousy and envy in relationships in particular and in the society in general
The university Don defined egocentrism as a personality disorder in which people see themselves, their interests and their opinions as the only ones that mattered in all social interactions.
Also reacting, Andrew Omolayo said Jealousy refers to the fear of losing someone or something you value. Jealousy in marriage is a toxic emotion that, when carried too far, can destroy a marriage.
A relationship expert, Ayo Ayedun added that jealousy is not equivalent to love as it mostly stems from insecurity. The jealous spouse often does not feel they are “enough” for their partner. Their low self-esteem makes them perceive other people as threats to the relationship.
“They, in turn, try to control their partner by preventing them from having any outside friendships or hobbies. This is not healthy behaviour and can doom the marriage eventually.
“Jealousy in marriage is a toxic emotion that, when carried too far, can destroy a marriage. Some of us see the roots of jealousy early in childhood. It is observed among siblings when we call it “sibling rivalry.” At that age, children compete for the attention of their parents. When a child thinks that they aren’t getting exclusive love, jealous feelings begin.
“Most of the time, this wrong perception goes away as the child develops and gains a healthy level of self-esteem. But sometimes, it persists ultimately transferring over to love relationships when the person starts dating.
“Jealousy may be driven by low self-esteem or a poor self-image. If you don’t feel attractive and confident, it can be hard to truly believe that your partner loves and values you. Other times, jealousy can be caused by unrealistic expectations about the relationship”, Ayedun added.
Also speaking, Mrs Bolatito Moradeyo noted that Jealousy is a feeling of anger or resentment when someone thinks another person is trying to get the attention of their lover or partner.
She said one of the signs of jealousy in a relationship is when your partner constantly invades your social gatherings unannounced. For example, your partner may suddenly pop into your friend’s party, all to check on you. They might also stop by your place of work when you are in a meeting.