In today’s society, accepting financial support from a spouse’s ex is generally considered a non-negotiable red flag. WEEKEND HOPE sought the views of some people on this issue, especially under a critical medical condition. Excerpts:

By Olabanji Kayode and Precious Owolabi

ASEFON Sola Samuel

In my opinion, it really depends on the situation and how comfortable both partners feel about it. If I were in this position, I would want to have an open conversation with my spouse first.

  Trust and communication are key in any relationship; so it is important to make sure we are both on the same page about why the ex is offering the money and whether it feels appropriate.

If the ex is offering help out of genuine concern, it could be understandable. But I would also want to make sure it does not make either of us feel uncomfortable. Sometimes, accepting money from an ex can stir up emotions or complicate things, especially if there is any history of unresolved feelings.

If there are any doubts or if it feels like it could lead to issues down the line, it might be worth finding another solution – whether through family support, insurance, or something else.

Omotayo Akinnawo

Personally, I see nothing wrong with my spouse accepting money from her ex to pay my hospital bill especially in a life-or-death situation. Trust is the foundation of our relationship, and if the help is genuinely offered with no strings attached, then it’s welcome. Where there’s life, there’s hope, and survival should always come before pride or ego.

Ogungbemi Orimisan

Life is of essence and human health is of utmost importance. Though, this poser is somewhat technical.

However, I don’t think my wife needs to tell me of such and if she does, I’ll measure the intention of the giver, I mean her ex; maybe it’s for humanity or conditional benefit. Either way, the criticality of my condition would determine my acceptance of the seemingly Greek Gift.

It’s not a crime to be friends to one’s ex if not for illicit affairs that could be inflamed. And it’s not bad if I allow my wife to have open relationship or connection with her ex, once I trust her.

Mr Iroaye Olumide

This question cuts to the core of human relationships, revealing a complex web of emotions, trust and loyalty.

In today’s society, where the consequences of misguided actions can be devastating, one thing is clear: accepting financial support from an ex-partner is a non-negotiable red flag.

This seemingly innocuous act can sow the seeds of deceit, dishonesty and mistrust, ultimately threatening the very foundation of a relationship. By allowing such behaviour, we risk undermining the bond of trust and loyalty that relationships are built upon.

The truth is, relying on an ex for financial solutions is a recipe for disaster.

Instead of seeking answers from past relationships, we should look to a higher power for guidance and provision.

God is the ultimate source of breakthroughs and solutions, offering a more secure and trustworthy foundation for our lives.

Omorinsola Jimoh

It really depends on the situation. First, it depends on the urgency of the matter. Also, If it’s a matter of life or death and there are no other options, I’ll put pride aside and accept help. Survival comes first. But if there are alternatives like taking a loan or getting help from family or friends, I will rather go for those ones.

Also, how my spouse handles the situation matters a lot. Did they inform me first, or did I find out later? Communication is crucial in a relationship. Being open and respectful when discussing issues like this build trust, while lack of communication damages it.

Of course, in extreme cases where there’s no time for discussion like a medical emergency, intention still matters. If there’s no betrayal and the motive is pure, it’s understandable. In summary: survival first, explanation and healing later.

Mr Akintayo Abiodun

Of course, yes. If that is the final option left. She should go ahead. Then after healing, the money can be refunded to him. This life is worth living, if it is rejected and it results in death, what will be the excuses?

A wife who will be faithful will be faithful and the one who is not going to be faithful will never be, even if given the whole wide world.

God is not going to come down to help. He will send someone. That shouldn’t be a problem. For the fact that the woman tells you means she is faithful.

What if she went behind to do it, how will you know, let alone fight against it? Wisdom is profitable to direct. Knowledge should be applied in our day–to–day life. Know and understand life for yourself.

Miss Opeyemi Esther

It depends on how the relationship ended and what made them to break up and how they are managing the relationship.

If they respect each other’s relationship and there is a boundary, yes I can allow that. But if there is still something going on between them, I might not accept.

Helping out doesn’t mean you still have a special feeling for your ex. But doing your best in terms of rendering help means you have human feelings and sympathy.

Adebowale blessing

This is a very deep question. It depends on the nature of her current relationship with the ex, your own comfort level and the urgency of the situation.

If it is a matter of life-or-death and there are no other options, it is a yes. Pride will have to take a back seat. But if there are other ways to cover the cost, it is better to decline. It may cause tension or insecurity in the relationship later.

Ekechi Vincent

In my own view, I think survival comes first. In a desperate situation, desperate solutions are needed. There is no pride in sickness; you have to be alive to protect your ego. So my answer is a big yes.