By Maria Famakinwa

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Sex is an important aspect of romantic relationship. Its role in sustaining any relationship cannot be over-emphasised. Regular sex between couples has a variety of benefits. Its relieves stress, improves sleep, increases immunity and promotes better cardiac health.

Beyond individual benefits, regular sex between the couple supports a healthy relationship. Findings revealed that the oxytocin released during sex enhances a sense of bonding and improves emotional intimacy.

In fact, some people argue that the best way couples can express their love for each other is through sexual intimacy. As important as sex is in a marriage, some couples who spoke with The Hope disclosed that there are some times of the day that they do not enjoy sex. Hence, the need for couples to study their body mechanisms, in order to understand the best time of the day the body is prepared for sex.

A commercial driver, Mr Jamiu Okanlawon, explained that he enjoyed sexual intimacy more in the morning, as he described morning sex as a good way to start the day.

His words: “I prefer to have sex very early in the morning. Morning sex, for me, is the best way to start the day. With morning sex, you achieve orgasm easily. This is because the body is relaxed and prepared for it. Morning sex is more pleasurable and leaves you with positive feelings throughout the day. That is the reason men tend to have morning erection; the body is more prepared for the enjoyment in the early hours of the day.”

A civil servant who simply wanted to be addressed as Layo also described morning sex as the vitamin needed for the body to win the day.

She said: “My husband knows that I don’t joke with morning sex. Even when my husband is not in the mood, I pacify him to have my way, otherwise I will be dull throughout the day. But if he travels, I wait till he returns.”

Asked if she would not prepare the kids for school, she said: “I plan my time so that my kids will not be late for school. But if both of us are in the mood, we will quickly drop the kids at school and get home to have a nice time together. At times, we get to the office late due to this, but the consolation remains that what kept us late is actually worth it. I believe that my body is made for morning sex. I also learnt that testosterone and energy levels are higher in the morning. If you want to enjoy sexual intimacy, try the morning show. You will be glad you did,” she said.

A self employed woman, Doyin, who described sex as an important part of a romantic relationship added that there is nothing that spices up intimacy between couples more than a sense of sexual satisfaction.

On which time did she preferred to have it, she said: “I like morning sex, especially at the weekend when you will have enough time for the enjoyment. Morning sex leaves you with positive feelings about your partner which you take into the dream world. Morning sex is like morning exercise.

“The only issue I have with morning sex is that when the enjoyment is deep at times, some unwanted visitors will come knocking at your door, disturbing the flow. Even when I don’t always go to open the door for them, the hearing of the knock alone affects the mood because you don’t know who is at the door at that time and why the person is there. But that does not rule out the fact that morning sex is an energiser.

“I also enjoy sex when I am sick. It sounds strange and hard to believe but that is me. My husband understands that any sickness that will prevent me from sex is an emergency case. When I am a little bit under the weather, getting intimate with my husband is the cure. I will advise others to try it. If it’s working for me, it can work for others.”

A businessman, Mr Olaniyi Oriade, said that he preferred sexual intimacy in the afternoon when his body system would have been charged.

His words: “I prefer afternoon sex, because in the morning my body is still in the resting mood and not feeling sexual sensation the way it does in the afternoon. Though my woman complains anytime I call her from her shop to meet me at home, she has no choice but to obey. Sometimes, if she tells me she cannot leave her shop, I try to tame my sexual urge. However, if I cannot hold it, I will threaten to come and lock up her shop. Then, she will comply.”

A beautician who wanted to be addressed as Moturayo revealed that night sex is the best for her. She said:” Night sex is the best for me, especially after a stressful day. You don’t need any other pain relieving tablet than to shower, eat and get intimate with your spouse. That is the best way to recover from the day’s stress and the best exercise ever. It relaxes your veins and makes you to sleep like a baby. My husband also prefers night sex. He described it as a sleeping tablet that ushers in sweet dreams.”

In the submission of a farmer who gave his name as Mr Sanjo, he said that he does not have a preferred time for sex because he is always ready.

His words: “To be honest with you, I always feel the urge to have sex. Anytime is the best time for me. I don’t understand how God made me but when I discussed it with a medical doctor, he said that there was nothing I could do about it. When my first wife could no longer cope with my frequent sexual demands, she advised that I married a second wife which I did, but I can tell you that there is still a sexual vacuum in me yet to be filled. I am always having the urge for sex except when I am sick. I am even planning to marry the third wife but for the responsibilities.

“I love sex. I can’t have enough of it. A friend once told me that my libido is too high, that I should find a solution to it, but I am yet to get any. I am ready for sex anytime of the day,” he said.