By Maria Famakinwa

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The important role sex play in a marriage cannot be over emphasised. Thus, it is expected of legally married couples to satisfy themselves sexually. However, as good as sex is, investigation has revealed that some couples under the guise of satisfying their partners engaged in oral sex which they described as peak of sexual pleasure.
The issue of oral sex in marriage is one area many including clerics shy away from even though couples are practicing it. Some couples revealed that oral sex which is a way of stimulating one’s partner genital with mouth was the trending style that reminds them of the action and makes them always long for more.
Despite the fact that research has linked oral sex to several sexually transmitted diseases including chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, syphilis, genital warts, hepatitis B, among others, it is not enough to discourage couples from the act. Instead they told the writer that the era of missionary style is gone if one is ready to keep his/her marriage. As those who are against it described oral sex as dirty and impure act of love making.
A civil servant, Mr Ladi, said that he did not see anything wrong in having oral sex with your partner if she is sincere. “I do it and I enjoy it with my wife. I have not heard anyone condemning it and I cannot stop it because it is the essence of love making. It enhances sex drive for ultimate enjoyment”
A public servant, who did not want her name in print described oral sex as the real action that must not be missed. She said,” That is the fun in it. It is part of the foreplay that climax the whole show. I do it and my husband love it as well. It gives me and my partner another way to pleasure.” she said.
Also a beautician, simply identified as Bukky, hinted that sex is not complete without the oral as she liken it to the importance of oral in English language. Her words,”Oral English beautify English language and makes the speaker unique, so is oral sex to me and my man. What is wrong in giving it to your partner the way he/she wants it? Even the two dominant religions are silent about it and I was taught long time ago that being silent was an acceptance. If that is what we make my marriage work please let me continue.”
A businessman, Agbajo, hinted that oral sex was the first step into real sex. He said,” Oral sex hype the game and brings glamour into the action. I have not read in the Bible or Quran where oral sex is condemned. Nobody has time for missionary style again. Such style has expired since the day of my great grandmother. Now, it is take and receive and couples should up their games.”
A public servant who simply gave her name as Jumoke said that her husband has no choice but to do it. Her words.” What is bad in oral sex? If my husband cannot lick my plate who else will? Oral sex is mostly call blow job and everyone does it except the pretenders.”
When asked of her husband’s reaction to it said, “what will be his reaction when he also enjoy the blow job? He owns my body and I owns his, why then is it bad for couple to lick plate in order to enjoy another realm of love making?
“Let every couple learn the act of job blow as a crucial aspect as love making otherwise, they might lose their partners to the waiting hands of snatcher who can blow job and lick plate well.”
On the contrary, a civil servant, Ms Toun Oluwole, disagreed that oral sex was enjoyable and advised couples to be decent even in love making. She said,”I cannot imagine involving in oral sex to satisfy my man. How are you sure others are not doing the same with your partner? How sure are you that you are not jeopardising your health?
“The truth is that I cannot do it and will not advice anyone to do it. Even if the society are not talking about it, there are some things that should be reasoned out maturely. This is the reason people are battling with different diseases that are not known during the days of our forefathers. We need to be careful how we make love.” she advised.
A trader, Mr Layi Adekanye, who also condemned the act of oral sex asked if doing it can sustain a marriage. His words,”Can oral sex prevent couples from divorcing? As an Islamic faithful, I don’t think it is healthy to involve in such. Though, some can claim that it is fun, but they should be told that it can as well be dangerous to health. Couples need to be educated more on this for their own benefits. It is quite nauseating and animalistic for couples to do that all in the name of enjoyment or satisfaction. What if one contact incurable disease through oral sex and die, will that partner not re-marry? There is limit to every step one take in life including sex. The act is unhealthy, unclean, and impure which must be avoided.” he said.
An artisan, who gave his name as Bello, blamed the idea of oral sex among couples on modernisation as he warned of the consequences. “Modernisation has eroded our culture and values. One of the problems we are facing today is influx of foreign cultures. If today’s couples are involving in oral sex, what will the coming generation do? Must we embrace any foreign idea throws at us?. In the olden days, our culture and values were accorded due respect and people lived longer then. Why will you use your mouth in the act of sex making when even penetrative sex demand that the person freshen up?
“If parents are doing this, how will they correct their children? Before you know what is happening, couples will be eating their faeces during sex to show love. I pity our coming generation if we fail to address this. I see it as a dirty act that should not be heard of. This ugly act of oral sex should be traced to different health issues many are nursing today. Oral sex don’t guarantee happiness in marriages and should be discouraged because it is a dirty act.” he said.
The Hope spoke to a medical doctor with the Ondo State Contributory Health Commission, Dr. Tolu Ademujimi, who explained that oral sex is safe if one partner is known to be free of Herpes(that causes warts), gonorrhea and syphilis. He said,” There is a high risk of contacting these three sexually transmitted infection through oral sex.
“As for HIV and Hepatitis, the risk of transmission through oral sex is lower than through penetrative sex. However, if the person giving oral sex has sores around his/her mouth or the person receiving it has sores around his/her genitals, the risk or transmission of HIV and Hepatitis is very high and oral sex should be discouraged” he warned.