Mrs. Fayemi cautions couples on domestic violence
From Victor Akinkuolie, Ado-Ekiti
The wife of Ekiti State Governor, Erelu Bisi Fayemi has frowned at the incessant cases of marital violence among couples, urging married couples to communicate effectively in order to have a stress free marriage.
She made this known during a memorial lecture titled “Marital Violence:- Causes, Consequences and Remedies organised by the Ondo State College of Arts and Science, (OSCAS) Alumni Association in Akure, recently.
The lecture was in memory of one of the active members of the alumni association, Late Mrs. Oluremi Oladunni Ojo, who died last year.
Mrs Fayemi identified incompatibility as one of the major problems causing marital violence in the society as she advised singles to study themselves and know each other’s shortcomings before going ahead with marriage.
She stressed the need for couples to communicate effectively in order to have a stress free marriage.
“If a wife is not communicating with her husband effectively or a husband is not communicating with his wife, things then gets to a point where they don’t trust each other anymore,” she explained.
Erelu Fayemi also advised women to be economically independent and self-reliant in order to boost their self-esteem.
According to her, total dependence on husbands by wives is one of the major causes of violence in most marriages, because of the pressure it puts on husbands.
She warned parents not to mount pressure on their children to get married when they are not ripe for it as this usually leads to marital violence.
She also stressed the need for married couples to choose their friends well and not the ones who would lead them into trouble.
The Acting Chairman, OSCAS Alumni Association, Mr Segun Dipe appreciated the wife of the governor for doing justice to the topic, saying he was sure that couples were more enlightened through the lecture.