By Sunmola Olowookere
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Money is the oil that makes the wheel of love to run smoothly, the pessimists would say. Also, men could never be dissuaded from the belief that the only thing a woman cares about is money. No matter how painfull this assertion is, some women continue to reinforce the idea with their behaviour when their men are no longer able to care for them in the manner they have been accustomed to.
To worsen matters, as the economic crunch takes its toll on the society, families are also feeling the pinch as some wives no longer submit to their husbands. They do as they please and some even engage themselves in extra marital affair. It is as if their condition for respect and submission is tied to the ability of the husband to maintain them in comfort at all times.
When comfort flies out the window, most hitherto submissive and docile wives turn to shrews as tempers are easily provoked.
Responsible men are having a most difficult time in meeting the demands of their families, only a few are able to keep their families in the comfort they are accustomed to.
The hard time that is all over the country now is also biting hard in our neighbourhood as the crunch is pulling couples and famllles apart.
Couples no longer share things as most of them are at loggerheads. They hide money from each other.
The new couple that used to take lovey-dopey walks in the evening are no longer the same as things are no longer rosy between them.
The husband had been living in our neighbourhood before they got married. They courted for two years and shortly after her service year, they got married.
Their union was so blissful as he provided everything she needed. They had three kids in quick succesion.
They were an example to upcoming youths in our neighbourhood of what a marriage should be.
After seven years of marriage, the husband lost his job. He was devastated as he wondered why he was included among those that were to be let go. He had served the company diligently for fifteen years. However, he was consoled by the fact that he has an understanding and loving wife at home.
He got home expecting to be cuddled and assured that everything will be well but he was disappointed.
The wife shouted as if someone had died. “How will we cope? How do we take care of three children? What did you do to warrant this sack? I know that the company cannot sack you over nothing. What will you do now?”
She also began to tell her friends her predicament and within a short while, everyone was aware of what was transpiring in their household.
The poor man was shocked at his wife’s attitude. He had thought that his wife would assure him that they would live on her salary for the meantime. But instead, she went on railing at him for being careless and at the company for being merciless.
Wisely, he learnt to keep his peace. He knew that if he should speak, it would be disastrous. That marked the beginning of trouble in their household.
With each need that the wife provides, she will accuse him of not trying more in his search for a job and forcing her to do his duties. She would regret that had she known, she would not have had three kids.
With each of this maltreatment, his morale dropped. He could no longer endure her tantrums. The next available offer of job that came along, he gladly took it though it was lowly paid.
This however generated more problems as he could not keep his family in the way they were living before.
He blamed himself for his earlier extravagance as his wife who had grown accustomed to height of comfort found it hard to relinquish the memory. His wife in annoyance had to resume some of those things she left for him when he got another job. Since then, it has been one quarrel or the other.
It was obvious that love was lost between the two. Her parents made their home their second base and they no longer enjoy any privacy.
Their home has become a sort of war zone with the wife’s mother always on her daughter’s side whenever the couple quarrel. How the tides turn so suddenly! Could love survive without money?